<body><script type="text/javascript"> function setAttributeOnload(object, attribute, val) { if(window.addEventListener) { window.addEventListener('load', function(){ object[attribute] = val; }, false); } else { window.attachEvent('onload', function(){ object[attribute] = val; }); } } </script> <div id="navbar-iframe-container"></div> <script type="text/javascript" src="https://apis.google.com/js/platform.js"></script> <script type="text/javascript"> gapi.load("gapi.iframes:gapi.iframes.style.bubble", function() { if (gapi.iframes && gapi.iframes.getContext) { gapi.iframes.getContext().openChild({ url: 'https://www.blogger.com/navbar.g?targetBlogID\x3d12961368\x26blogName\x3dBreeze\x26publishMode\x3dPUBLISH_MODE_BLOGSPOT\x26navbarType\x3dBLUE\x26layoutType\x3dCLASSIC\x26searchRoot\x3dhttps://cyruszamani.blogspot.com/search\x26blogLocale\x3den_US\x26v\x3d2\x26homepageUrl\x3dhttp://cyruszamani.blogspot.com/\x26vt\x3d-9156023507105675949', where: document.getElementById("navbar-iframe-container"), id: "navbar-iframe" }); } }); </script>

Thursday, August 25, 2005

Invisible friends(?)

There are some people in everybody's life who are hidden all the time. They just appear when they are in need of something and then disappear again. In digital words, they are online but invisible. Why? Simply because they do not want to be in contact or are unwilling to give any helpful hand.

In the case of Iranians, it is much more complicated coz some people are scared of the others and want to stay away because of political/religious issues. And some of them think that this is wise when you get your needs from your friends but not to be helpful in a mutual way. They, in fact, are sometimes more problematic bringing many troubles with themselves. Maybe that's why Jean Paul Sartre says "Hell is other people".

I can't call these my friends. To me, friends have a strict definition according to which, total number of my friends does not exceed 10 so far though I know thousands of those who have been in contact face to face.

Here is a message (a quoatation from Jimmy Durante):
"Be nice to people on your way up because you meet them on your way down."

And finally, I'd like to ask you if you can give a name to these guys...

posted by Cyrus at 11:42 PM

9 Comments:

  • first:
    Thanks sooooo much for your help .Finally I blogrolled myself.
    Second:
    They are called nodding friends.
    Best,
    http://iranianteacher.blogsky.com

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 2:59 AM  

  • Cyrus jan, I agree.
    by the way, my Alireza is not Ali Reza;)

    By Blogger Alireza, at 9:07 AM  

  • This is a very sensitive and mutually important subject to debate. Therefore, it cannot be discussed fully by leaving a simple comment. However, now that you have brought it up, let me put it this way: “Your friend is the money in your pocket.” Besides that, you’ll never going to be totally satisfied by the performance and the treatment of others who we call “friends’. In my life, I learned that everyone is out there to survive. And when surviving is the goal, there will be others who will be left out -- intentionally, or unintentionally.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 9:24 AM  

  • Well, I've seen a lot of these so called "friends" in my life, and I'm afraid we really can't call them "friends" or even "humans". They are just simply "people". But I did learn to keep away from them, because they bring you no good and leave you with only scars. anyway, I do also agree with Farzad where he talked about surviving.

    By Blogger Maryam, at 12:22 PM  

  • hmm,

    I know what your on about Cyrus... interesting thoughts.

    By Blogger Stay Human, at 8:18 PM  

  • Teacher:
    Good. Now it works.
    And friends: Yeah. You are right.

    Alireza:
    OK. I'll modify the link. Tnx.

    Farzad:
    Yes. And the question is that why there is a high rate among Iranians?

    Maryam:
    Yes. I agree. They can not be called friends.

    Farzad:
    Tnx for the link. I'll check it. But I'm not a student, you know.


    Stay Human:
    Thanks my friend.

    By Blogger Cyrus, at 5:43 PM  

  • Cyrus - The name of their website is "Persian Stuents In UK". Anybody can submit their link for anybody to see including the students, professionals, etc... Your submission is for their bloglink section. If you had seen their website you would notice their English Blogs by Iranians.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 7:51 PM  

  • Cyrus - "And the question is that why there is a high rate among Iranians?"
    Well, I read your post again and I didn't see this question in your original post. However, now that you have brought it up, let me put it this way: Iranians are suffering from STATUS ANXIETY almost more than any other culture. And that has something to do with the fact that EGO plays the huge role in our history and culture.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 8:01 PM  

  • Farzad:
    Thanks. I'm checking the website now.
    And about the question: I agree. But the status anxiety, yes. Maybe. But this could not be the only factor. There should be some other complicated resons behind this.

    By Blogger Cyrus, at 9:15 PM  

Post a Comment

<< Home